Too Early to Love
One of my bestfriends finally came back into town, this time for good. I’m so glad he’s back. We were catching up on over 2 to 3 months of gossip since we last talked and damn this guy was busy. He met someone while he was living in his new area, a guy whom after a few weeks told him that he loved him… my friend had yet to respond. I think it’s amazingly fast and scary how young couples these days are falling in love… and if it even is in fact, love. I have to admit though, when I first told BJ I loved him it was on our third or fourth month and even then I knew it was too early. I didn’t know I was going to say it, nor did I ever want to use that word with anyone, but my family… I felt something though… lust, admiration maybe? I didn’t know what it was exatly. This one day, it just happen to be that exact moment that BJ made me laugh and made me happy in such a way I haven’t felt for a long time, did I mention I love you. BJ being modest and all decides not to hear it, or at least pretended, and asked me “what did you say?” My heart suddenly grew cold. What did I just do? BJ knew what I said. He kept pestering me to answer him… I felt like he wanted to hear it, but then again he could had use it as an excuse to break up with me. After a moment of realizing what just happened my heart grew warm and cozy again and told him, I love you. Because as early as it was, I did love him. For making me feel safe, for making me smile… for telling me with the utmost honesty when we were still friends, and I was sad, that he’ll protect me. That’s why I loved him after 3 of 4 months. Am I as stupid as all those people who fall in love too early? Am I as subjectable as them all on whether a lasting relationship can be created? The answer is No. Why? That’s up to you all to decide and tell your story.
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May 31st, 2007 at 1:06 am
There are many levels and degrees of love to me. The term love can be loosely applied to certain things like “omg i love you, you like eggs and mustard like i do!!” or something like that. Usually the person that I really do love they know it. I make sure they know it. haha
Sometimes people confuse a temporary moment of happiness for love. I think it takes time. Loving someone doesn’t have to mean you are with them or in a relationship with them.
May 31st, 2007 at 1:17 am
Babe, I love you with all my heart. I remember that night as if it was yesterday, I love you so much! I;m sorry if I put you on the spot that night but I wanted to make sure I had heard you right before I said anything. Thank you for telling our story.
May 31st, 2007 at 6:27 pm
Totally agree about the whole love thing. Even tho you really shouldn’t say it so early in a relationship, is there really a time stamp on when you should? Maybe it’ll take a year maybe a month. I say when themoment comes and you feel it, You should express it. And express it without expecting it back. Tho if they say it back (specially when it’s the first time) ah bliss…
Anyway good blog dude I love the way you write. You kinda inspired me to start up my blog site. Tho mine is more of a daily journal with personal thoughts here and there. But I’ve blabbed too much. Take it easy man and hope you’re havinj a delighful evenin.
Aloha
May 31st, 2007 at 8:30 pm
Love -
ah yes, one of the three essential energies of this world. It is one of three emotions which, much like a color wheel, create the palettes and hues of our world: the feelings of Love, Faith, and Fear. However true love must harbor all of these emotions - You must love them unconditionally, even more than yourself. You must fear the loss of them, because if they ever left, you would be reduced to nothing, but you must have faith that they would never leave you, and believe that they shall always be there, whether in body or in spirit.
My apologies for sharing my philosophies yet again - I know how you feel that I’m wasting my money studying such things lol There’s only ever been one person I’ve ever truly fallen in love with, and I love him still even to this day. Though he may not feel that way about me, he’ll always have my heart. I do not regret him, because he’s the light of my life - he’s everything to me. I do not wish I could change how he feels because if it were my choice, then it would not be his, and his love would be as false as my foolish sense of security. I love him enough to understand that I’m not what he wants, and that’s alright, because I love him, and his happiness means more to me than me being his boyfriend, even if he is the only thing I’ve ever truly wanted lol
I’m inclined to agree with the last gentleman - love should not have constraints of time nor of setting. It should be called upon and stated when the moment is right.
I’m so happy for you Tracy, you certainly deserve that precious boy of yours. Be good to him son-in-law lol
June 1st, 2007 at 9:06 am
I don’t think that there is a ‘time’ to tell someone that you love them, it just happens. If you know that you are in love with someone you should let them know because maybe they feel the same. I remember that I told Marcos that I loved him abou the 2 month that we were dating because it was true! Here we are almost 9 months together and still in love! I don’t think that there is a time that you need to wait just as long as you actually mean it when you do tell them.
June 1st, 2007 at 9:48 am
@ Sean
Yea I agree… but I find it really hard sometimes to justify for those who say I love you only after the 2nd day of a relationship. What is they really do love that other person?
June 3rd, 2007 at 1:47 pm
Being a hopeless romantic fan since birth, I believe that sometimes, if you spend some time with a certain person and can really feel an undenying connection, you might be able to say I love you within the second day. Recently, I’ve been doubting if anyone can ever say it on the first day,but I am a somewhat firm believer that love can be expressed on the second day. Trey, you ask what would someone really love about somebody else on the second day. Well, if that deeper connection is so strong, then everything. Everything the person does should make you grow more and more in love than you ever thought possible (which may lead to your true love
June 3rd, 2007 at 1:48 pm
Weird…my other half of the comment got deleted, but here was the continuation:
In my life, I’ve never been able to express my love until I was a month into the relationship. The only reason I wasn’t able to express it earlier was I barely had any time with him in the beginning since he was kinda far away and would see me during the weekends and sometimes, on special occassions, weekdays. If you feel that everything you two do together is memorable and mutually heartfelt, then you are experiencing love or true love before your eyes. I am soooo happy that you and BJ have been feeling the same way for each other for such a long time now. I’m hoping that I will be on cloud 9 sometime soon, but until then it’s the summer and I’m gonna booty drop lol ;) Trey & Skye…that was directed to you two cause we’ve mastered it lol
June 3rd, 2007 at 2:51 pm
@ Melvin
Ok… i’m not going to sugarcoat anything here. Falling in love after two days is ridiculous. We have to learn the difference between a mere factuation and love. You don’t know much of anything about this person by the second day. It’s crazy to fall in love in two days. A month, I can maybe understand because you’ll have the time to learn this person’s good and bad sides… but two days… that’s not love… that’s a fantasy that’s about to die.
FYI. I don’t booty drop. That’s for you and Skye :-)
June 5th, 2007 at 9:58 am
I know that some people believe that one must wait a certain time, to get a glimpse of everything the other person has to offer through his good and bad sides, but sometimes there is a deeper connection when you meet somebody for the first time. I know a couple here in MA who owns an antique store who have been together for 80 yrs! They said that they had experienced true love at first sight in their teens! I was astounded and at first, I didn’t believe them, but later I thought about it for a long time and it does make sense that some people wait for that deeper connection and some people don’t and rush into a relationship. That’s the sad thing about me and being a hopeless romantic. Some people go through many relationships to see if love grows when it turns out to be 50/50 sometimes, whereas hopeless romantics have very few relationships, waiting for the one, true one, which may or may not be found in our lives. Yeah, there are people who would wait their entire lives to feel that deeper connection with someone once they spot them. I hope I’m as lucky as the 80 yr old couple. Falling in love within two days isn’t fantasy about to die, but a fantasy that has been born. Lol, you soooooo booty drop. I can see you now being all slutty lol. Miss you and Skye
June 5th, 2007 at 10:04 am
Lol, by the way, I researched our booty drop video by findplo on youtube and it has over 2,400 viewers lol!
February 14th, 2008 at 5:37 pm
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تو کیستی ؟
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و در خلوت خویش زندگی میکنم
و می دانم که هرگز کسی نخواهد آمد
کسی نخواهد آمد
امیدوارم که هرگز یاد ایران نکنید این جا غمگین است
بای بای
August 18th, 2008 at 10:35 pm
Tears Of Joy Trey! Just say it! It don’t hurt! The one thing I don’t want to leave here without doing IS = Telling that person that you LOVE them regardless! Love ya Trey Peace Jere