Is it messed up to snoop on your boyfriend?
Ok, so one day, I was in class and a close friend of mine (who should have been paying attention to the lecture) notice that I was on myspace. To be exact, I was on my boyfriend’s myspace. He told me “that’s really fucked up!” I was like what?!?!? I DON’T GET IT! What’s fucked up? What’s so mess up about it? He’s my boyfriend, I have a right to check around, don’t I? I mean how many people out there don ‘t think it’s ok to check up on your boyfriend’s myspace… well, “check” isn’t quite the word, but log in every now and then to see who he recieves messages from, friend request from hoes and freaks and shit?!? I unno, it might just be me, but if I don’t know what my man is doing then i feel like i have no control. OH, and one more thing… he knows that i get onto his myspace. Shit, he even tried deleting some of my bulletins that I had posted under my own account. Any oppositions or comments? Be nice!
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May 7th, 2007 at 3:59 pm
Hell no it’s not messed up.. I think as long as he knows that you read his blog who cares? If he was secretive about it then he must be hiding something. Plus what is so private that he can’t share it with you who should be one of the closest people to them.
May 7th, 2007 at 3:59 pm
Cookie, I agree with anonymous. He gave you all rights to go into his myspace. It’s just like him giving you the key to his house so you can walk through the door instead of sneaking in through the window. (Bad Analogy but it works lol)
May 7th, 2007 at 4:00 pm
Tracy, you have to understand. At one point, you should know what he’s doing, but only to a degree. BJ (as far as I know him, and you’ve told me), is a pretty straight-forward guy, and has no reason to be dishonest with you. Sure you have a right to know, but that can only go so far before you go into an invasion of privacy, however that’s not to say that his deleting your bulletins is right either. In short, you’re both wrong, you’re just slightly more extended LOL :p
Love you anyway! :p
~Adrian
May 7th, 2007 at 4:00 pm
I think as long as you guys know that each other is checking up on the other, and that you are both okay with it, then it isn’t anyone else’s business but yours. If it was me, I would just trust that my bf wouldn’t cheat and let their stuff be theirs and my stuff be mine. Whoever I am with HAS to trust me COMPLETELY. That’s what love is about. *hugS*
May 7th, 2007 at 4:00 pm
i completely agree with jay. I too am in a relationship and the toughest endeavor of any relationship is to completely trust your bf. I’m complete control freak too, but in the end, what’s meant to be yours will be yours. Relax… pluse i bet he hasnt given you a reason to doubt him. whatever you do dont jump to conclusions because by checking on him you’re already assuming that he could be….*shrugs
May 7th, 2007 at 4:00 pm
Hehe, I do the same thing. It’s not snooping or “checking,” though, it’s just looking through shared material. Dylan looks through my stuff, I look through his. If we claim to each other that we have nothing to hide, there shouldn’t be anything that would give off an indication that we do.
May 7th, 2007 at 4:01 pm
i guess if he knows it then its ok, but if he didnt, then yea thatd b wrong ….well since he IS your boyfriend, i guess you have somewhat of an exception even if he didnt know, but to me it’d feel like i was betraying his trust
August 4th, 2008 at 4:38 pm
WELL I JUS LISTEN TO A MSG THAT A FEMALE LEFT MY MAN…………… ON HIS PHONE …I DONT FEEL BAD!! BECAUSE HE IS CHANGING WITH ME AND I NEEDED TO KNO WHY!! I LIVE WITH HIM .. AND THERE IS NO REASON FOR HIM TO LIE TO ME..I BELIEVE IN EVERYTHING YOU DO COMES TO LIGHT!! I ASKED HIM TO CALL THE BITCH AND LET ME SPEAK TO HER HE SAID NO THAT I WILL NEED TO TAKE HIS WORD FOR IT THAT NOTHING IS GOING ON..YEAH RIGHT………..AND NOW HE IS CALLING ME OUT MY NAME.. ANY ADVICE??
September 8th, 2008 at 8:36 pm
i totally agree and wish my bf would agree also. i asked to see his cell phone and she said no, so that left me wondering why. i asked him and he said that i didnt trust him. i dont think it has to do with trust, and besides if he isnt hiding anything than whats the big deal. so one night while he fell asleep i looked in his cell phone, was nosey and checked his calls, texts, noticed girls numbers i never saw or knew and asked him and he flipped out on me, now he takes his phone everywhere, shower, to shit, its crazy. if he has nothing to hide why be so weird with this situation? i dont care if he looks at my phone. i honestly dont get it, alot of guys say its trust issues, i disagree!
September 10th, 2008 at 2:02 am
um lisa i dont know you are anything but if your boyfriend has loads of girls numbers on his phone..HELLO! He’s cheating! it might be good idea to break up with him..or cheat on him too. he deserves it