Why do couples curse at each other?
I don’t get it and that really pisses me off! How can one day these two humans be so lovely dovey and the next day they are yelling “fucker”, “asshole”, or “son of a bitch” to each other? Do they intentionally mean this or were they too into the moment to realize what they are saying???
Folks, keep in mind that being cursed at by a love one is more painful than being completely ignored. It’s crazy! I know mistakes do happen every now and then but to say it with such anger directly towards another being is just unacceptable. How do you feel or love that person again after what they had said? Are we stupid to accept their apology and forgive them? Or does it have to happen a second, or even a third time till it becomes intolerant? I don’t understand a lot of couples these days… likewise, are we obligated to forgive our parents when they curse at us? Am I really stupid, a son of a bitch, a bad brother? Can someone please explain?!?
7 views
May 7th, 2007 at 4:15 pm
these words do not necessarily reflect how the person feels, keep in mind that they are ANGRY when they say it so not all the things they say are things they mean. Granted it doesn’t feel great, but I have to disagree, it’s one thing for them to curse and yell, but it’s far worse as to when they completely ignore you, refusing to even accept your existence.
Although such language is disrespectful when it is said in a serious tone, that doesn’t mean it’s fair to completely disown them just because they yelled an exclamatory remark. I’ve gone through many, many days being yelled at with expletives lol and I have to say, it’s not that bad; it doesn’t feel great but it’s survivable. Don’t abandon those you love just because they do things they don’t mean; give them the benefit of the doubt, even if you think they don’t deserve, so that way you can make sure that if you do abandon them, they can’t say you didn’t give them chances
Either way, don’t worry about such things as passive as language, being bogged down by vocabulary will only serve to frustrate you lol
Love you Tracy, and I’m always here if you need me,
~Adrian
May 7th, 2007 at 4:15 pm
You have to sometimes let the crap roll off your back. I’d say the 10% of a relationship that IS euphoric is what makes it worth hanging on for. Reality dictates that relationships cannot be euphotic all of the time unfortunately but don’t give up! The best things in life are earned and sometimes the work involved is painful. Giving up is easy. My strategy is to cry! lol! It instantly makes him feel bad and he takes a moment to evaluate his words, we talk about it and then he apologizes which then turns into a makeout session! This is terrible advice by the way! lol!
May 7th, 2007 at 4:15 pm
Just for the record, I was being hypothetical and nothing in here personally reflects BJ and I.