Ingredients for a lasting relationship
It’s crazy how just yesterday I was mad at BJ, but then after I hung up with him I had already forgiven him for whatever he may have done. BJ and I engage in a relationship where we, during any circumstances, avoid all curse words… because in the end what hurts more? Getting in a fight over something stupid, or getting called a “son of a bitch” by your own boyfriend? Over the 18 months we been together there is something valuable that we both learned on how to keep a lasting relationship. I’m very happy that BJ was able to point it out to one of his myspace friends… ( i logged into his myspace and copied this message :-D )
“Never ending patience, and constant communication. Those are the keys, at least to my relationship. Now, I’m not going to say that I know everything about love. I’m only like a year older than you and know just as much about it as you do. But if you want a shot at even being in love, you need communication and patience. Honestly, trust, commitment and the rest of that crap are in there somewhere as well. But if you communicate with your boyfriend and have patience with him and yourself, the rest should fall in place and you might have a shot. I got lucky. ” - BJ
I still think he needs to work on the constant communication part, but it’s still a really great advice to his friend. If any of you have ever met BJ and I personally, you will not only notice, but see that we can be a hand-full. BJ and I are both extremely stubborn when it comes to who’s right and who’s wrong. BJ is really opened to everything and friendly to everyone, i’m more “if i don’t like you, don’t talk to me.” BJ shops wherever there’s a clearance… I shop wherever there’s a sale. I guess you can almost say it’s like country boy meets Barbie doll Ken (or valley girl).
I can’t even begin to express in words how annoying BJ can be… but I’ve learned to be patient with him… patient with his laziness, his lack of organization… and especially patient with his way of thinking. But asides from the annoying stuff there is much more that I love about him. I love him for his commitment to bettering society, his involvement with the mentally disabled citizens, and… his commitment to this relationship. I can be a asshole 99.999% of the time… but he stood there and took it and loved me even more than he did the day before. I say a lot of stupid stuff and he’s still here with me. Look where we are now… about to go on to our 19 months… 1 year since I gave him a promise ring. Whether it be a gay or straight monogamous relationship, with patience and communication “and the rest of that crap”, anyone who possess’ these unique characteristics is a keeper.
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June 7th, 2007 at 2:44 pm
you star!
Hugs
Daren
x
June 7th, 2007 at 3:02 pm
Haha aww I’m happy for you two Tracy - you two deserve it
By the way I love your self-asshole statistic you had in there lmao that was classic
Wishing you kids many more years of happiness :p
Love,
~Me lol
June 7th, 2007 at 5:01 pm
There’s no doubt about it, you two are guDDD. lol.
I hope yall the best.
June 7th, 2007 at 7:49 pm
So sweet!
June 7th, 2007 at 11:55 pm
(pouts) I’m still mad about that last blog, and I still think your wrong! but atleast you got this blog right, and I’m not just talking about your self *sshole description (which I somewhat agree with) but on everything. I love you and always will. You call me China and here you are goin through my myspace and posting it on your blog. I’m not even chineese, I think you’re more like china. Your asian and manipulative. lol. Whether I talk to you tonight or not, I love you!
June 8th, 2007 at 12:48 am
it was a nasty comment. geezz. someones bitter. He says you took stuff from his myspace and posted it. I don’t know if you had permission or not but something tells me you didn’t get permission. You may thought it was harmless and cute but I don’t know. He probably thinks its invading and like you said he’s stubborn so he won’t admit he’s wrong (just like you too, i think). I do hope yall get to talk it out. Its so weird after a make up there’s another wrestling match. ITs Wrestlemania 2!
June 8th, 2007 at 7:46 am
Aww, I really like this blog. I do have one more thing to add though. You and BJ are not a handfull… you are much more than that! lol I think that you two have successfully taken off 10 years of my life because of the stress! lol j/k
I love both of you with all of my heart and you know that I will always be there for the both of you. It has been an interesting journey that I have enjoyed. I hope that I can continue to be a part of your lives, even if only a small part.